Know what I like?
It's ungodly how much I enjoy doing dishes, shampooing carpets, dusting shelves....not sweeping and mopping. NEVER sweeping and mopping. But almost everything else. I love it. Headphones on my ears and either music I can sing along to or waaaay inappropriate comedy blasting away, I can clean up a storm and have a ball.
Know what I don't like?
A lot of other stuff.
Waking up early.
Going to visit the elderly. (Egads! I know that's a rough one to admit.)
Picking up not-my-underwear off of the bathroom floor when we've been married for 8 years now and can't-you-learn-to-do-this-for-yourself-what-if-I-die-is-there-going-to-be-an-awkward-pile-of-man-panties-in-the-bathroom-during-the-wake?
Trying on clothes that don't fit correctly.
Writing something and feeling like it's not working but IT MUST! IT MUST! (not really)
Giving up valuable reading time for aforementioned cleaning time.
Working when my kiddos have the day off of school and missing that time with them in the morning when they are calm and sweet.
Here's the thing: we all have to do stuff we don't like. It's kind of what makes the world go 'round.
You - going to work or school when it's the last thing you want to do is what keeps us as a society going.
You - cleaning when you'd rather personally test an atomic bomb on your house instead is giving yourself, your pets, and your family a safe space they can be proud of.
You - driving to see family that you might not really want to hang out with over your ONLY day off.
You - doing that homework.
You - waking up early to exercise. (More power to you! Do an extra lap for me!)
You are a valuable part of our global society. You can do the difficult/mundane/un-motivated stuff.
YOU contribute more than you know. So keep rocking it.
I spent my day on Saturday with two dear friends, walking through stores, picking out AH-MAY-ZING outfits, dreaming of the organization that comes with the funds and space you must have if you shop at The Container Store, eating ourselves silly on Chinese, and making my maiden voyage by trying something that I've never done before for the first time. After spending this time together, one of my friends said this morning, "I missed you this weekend."
What? We were together the whole time. But I know what she meant.
You see, I haven't been sleeping well, and my whole wellbeing revolves around getting 8-9 hours a night. If I don't, I'm instantly cranky and a general lack of fun. Debbie Downer. A lump. Physically there but mentally in and out.
Obviously, I immediately messaged my girls and said something like, "We need to do this again when I am well rested! I had so much fun!"
I started thinking about the word 'togetherness'. In this instance, we were together but not. So I checked out the info on Google about it. (This is how my brain works!)
Check out the trend of using the word 'togetherness'. It wasn't even a thing until just before the 1900s but look how huge it is now! So, I thought, why is that?
Amongst all the possible reasons, like technology and grouping, I can't help but feel deep inside that it's BECAUSE of all this amazing stuff that we have. Not just because tech makes it easier to stay in touch, but because on the most basic of levels, we humans have a desire to be TOGETHER physically. In a group or with a friend who understands us. Who you can be yourself with, even if it's something not so pleasant. (Like you're too tired to BE there.) Or even if it IS pleasant. (Like belting out Matchbox 20 tunes with your buddies.)
So amidst all of the uncertainty I am seeing on social media right now, please take a moment to log off and hang out with your friends live and in person. It's amazing what togetherness can fix. It fixes darn near everything - if that doesn't work, try more cowbell.
Image taken from: http://www.bathroomreader.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Walken-Cowbell_DS.jpg
Mandy Peterson is the author of "Before I Shatter". She is also a mother, wife, librarian, book reviewer, and self-proclaimed chocolate connoisseur.